How to resist the urge to complain?


It is just a well known fact that because of the many problems in the world – we as humans have a tendency to complain.

But, is there a way to avoid the urge to complain? Here are ten ways to avoid the urge to complain:

1. Endeavor to look at challenges from an optimistic and positive perspective.

2. Ask yourself if your reason for complaining is “really” justified – if it isn’t, then  just forget the issue and move on. Numbers 12:1-16 gives us an example of two persons who were complaining about something that wasn’t really their issue.

3. If an alteration or an exaggeration of the truth is needed to justify your complaint, it might be best to reassess your motive to avoid discouraging yourself and others. Numbers 13:32-33 details part of the reason put forward by ten of the twelve spies that were sent out to view the land that the Israelites were to possess – one of the interesting questions that this passage causes one to ask is – if the land devours those living in it how were they able to see people of great size in it?

4. Every time a discouraging situation confronts you, use it as an opportunity to give Jesus praise for three positive things in your present life. 

5. Avoid being influenced by leaders or individuals or groups of people who stimulate a complaining atmosphere based on their own egos, personal agendas and selfish ambitions. Numbers 16:1-10 gives us a stunning picture of the beef that Korah started with Moses and Korah’s motive for complaining.

6. Remember that life before Jesus Christ returns is only temporary. Even in cases where fruit cakes were made in Ancient Egypt and buried with the dead as an everlasting treat that they hoped wouldn’t spoil on the journey to the afterlife, we now know for sure that those cakes have been wasted, because: (a) 1 Timothy 6:7 indicates, “For we brought nothing into the world, and we can take nothing out of it.” and (b) Ecclesiastes 9:5 confirms – “For the living know that they will die, but the dead know nothing; they have no further reward, and even their name is forgotten.”

7. Where possible stay away from events that celebrate and glorify weeping, mourning, hardships, complaining, difficulties and grumbling. Proverbs 15:13 validates that “A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit.”

8. Pray to Jesus for strength to resist the urge to complain.

9. Grow to accept that some circumstances are ordained and directed by God for His purposes. An example of circumstances ordained by God can be found in Jeremiah 27:1-7 and Luke 1:26-37.

10. Believe that the power of God can help you and work on your behalf as seen in 2 Kings 4:42-44.

2 thoughts on “How to resist the urge to complain?

  1. Numbers 13:32, 33 Ten of the spies lacked faith. They saw themselves being ‘devoured’ by the inhabitants of the land. Hence they painted a bad picture of it, and lied in doing so. They clearly did not trust God.

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  2. That’s so true – it is amazing how our lack of faith and belief can cause our adjectives to change from trusting to skepticism and from positivity to uncertainty. Despite our everyday challenges regarding our faith and trust in God, He still provides lifelines of Hope, Strength an Deliverance. God also promises us through His Son Jesus Christ that “To him that overcometh will I grant to sit with me in my throne, even as I also overcame, and am set down with my Father in his throne.” Revealation 3:21.

    Thanks for commenting Thebiblicalway.

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